Selfie, n. A photograph taken with a smartphone or other digital camera by a person who is also in the photograph, especially for posting on a social-media website.
By definition, your selfie must be publicly shared in order to actually qualify as a selfie, and therein lies the problem.
Of course, a few selfies here and there aren’t hurting anyone, especially when there’s actually something noteworthy going on elsewhere in the picture— a celebrity, a historic building, a UFO. But those already guilty of taking too many selfies aren’t doing it because of the cool-factor of their surroundings; they’re doing it in the car. They’re making duck faces in the corner at stupid Solo-cup-ridden parties. They’re taking mirror pictures in the bathroom while you’re waiting in line.
They’re doing it for attention, and their selfie-indulgent ways are (scientifically proven!) to have a direct correlation to conflict-ridden relationships. Selfies are causing break ups left and right! And it gets worse.
Relentless selfie purveyors aren’t just ruining their relationships with their SO’s; they’re destroying ties with their friends, with strangers, and even with themselves.
Don’t fall into the trap.
Selfies are causing you to argue with your SO.
A recent study published by The Journal of Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking (yes, that’s a real thing) found that individuals who post more selfies have significantly higher levels of conflict with their SOs. The arguments apparently stem from the partners feeling threatened, jealous, and insecure over the attention received over social media.
Furthermore, people felt way less supported in their relationships when their partners shared more pictures of friends and events rather than family.
Is the attention of (mostly) strangers really worth ruining your relationship? I think not.